Sunday, July 7, 2013

The kindness of strangers



I didn't ask, but she chased all the mice and possums from my house. Something I've never been able to do by myself.



And yet, she won't let me thank her. Oh, she'll take a dish of milk and a bowl of kibble in return.



When she grooms, it's always on the alert. And I tell her, "It's ok, I won't let anything hurt you." Well, maybe, she says,



but keep your distance.



There are teeth-marks on her head, from some battle or other. And I'd like to take her to the vet. But she has made it very clear, that though we may have a relationship of a sort




and a certain reciprocity can be expected


we are not friends. Yet.

36 comments:

  1. Hmmm, just wait till you hear some 'meows'..... My mom befriended a cat once and ended up w/ 2 litters of kitties... One of which I adopted and funny, it looked like the tuxedo one u have....btw how are the other 2 four legged ones handling this new arrival??? :-) You owe this one a whole lot more than kibble... she's your savior....

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  2. Time and patience. She looks like she would make a lovely addition to the family.

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  3. Carolynn is right. An inch at a time.

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  4. If she has been coming back, it's only a matter of time before she becomes your friend. Cats sense where they are safe and who will take care of them.

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  5. soon she'll be eating out of your hand

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  6. I see a cat door in your future.

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  7. KBF, all cats look like girls to me. Could be a boy. Albert is curious, but the cat wants nothing to do with him.

    Carolynn, when it comes to mousing, she could give Luna a lesson or two.

    Sharon and KM, she comes by every day and stares at the dish, waiting for it to magically fill itself. I don't think she connects the food with me, though.

    Janet, that would be a problem, given all my doors are made of glass.

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  8. make sure she sees you put out the food at some point, and just sit there with her while she eats or exists in your realm. At some point, even the most skittish kitties come nearby enough to allow you to touch them. Patience grasshopper, patience.

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  9. Similiar situation going on at my house. Except there has been a ton of reciprocity.

    *Many* photos on my FB page.

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  10. Ahhh...aren't you lucky to have such a handsome mouser come around to rid your yard of varmints!!! He/She looks pretty darned healthy!

    We had a neighbor who built freeways and found a black adult cat in the area he was working...he brought it home to my sister who had asked him to keep an eye out for a black cat. His family had a gorgeous long hair tabby that he had rescued, but she wanted black. He brought Frashtye to us and he stayed in my sisters room for close to a year...with us bringing him food and sitting in there just being quiet with him. Eventually he warmed up to the family and ventured out. He went outside, and always came back. I was just a kid then...but by the time I was in high school, he and I had a special bond...my sister had gone on with her life as she's 6 years older than me...Frash was a great cat!!!

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  11. We K9's have to admit there are some things we do appreciate about pussycats. We aren't friends, yet we do admire their occasional usefulness.

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  12. Dammit. I got home today and found her waiting for food but with some open skin tears on her head. Shit! Think I'll call the vet and see if I can get something to sprinkle on her food. She won't let me touch her, no way. She hisses even when I feed her.

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  13. if she hisses maybe she was abandoned? btw girl kitties look long and lean in their back legs... besides w/boys u can see their balls w/no problem.. and don't u dare ask if I go lookin'

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  14. Sometimes they only let you get so close, if you push for more it can scare them off. Just enjoy the relationship you have. We had a stray that had an ingrowing claw that had gone septic. It got so bad that he became weak enough for us to catch him and get him treated. We released him but he rarely comes back now, he no longer trusts us but at least he is healthy again.

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  15. Aww, you have yet another animal that's sought you out. What happened to Newt? He/she could be feral, in which case it's too late to get affection or bonding. My friend has 7 indoor cats, two of whom are feral and have never allowed her to touch them in 15 years. Sad about the injuries from fighting. You must have a bully cat nearby as well.

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  16. Nothing to lose by being patient. Wonder what a vet would say before reaching for the billing sheet.

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  17. She will be your friend, soon enough. Whether she will like Albert will be another story.

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  18. Hope she's ok, KB. Did you manage to sprinkle anything on her head? Poor babe sounds like she's had a very rough trot for who knows how long.

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  19. I hope Tuxedo's (we'll use KBF's name)story is similar to Newt's. You remember the nekkid cat? She had an excellent home but would escape for all sorts of adventures with hawks, cats, and then land on my front porch. Newt now stays put at her real home, save for a couple of escapades every three months or thereabouts. So perhaps Tuxedo is just acting out, and actually has a safe house. In any case, Tuxedo likes my house and food, but she doesn't trust me one little bit.

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  20. Trust is overrated. Nice hearth. Where's dessert?


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  21. Karin: I did google about the bites on her... they say if not treated could get infected.. just what u need, eh? another medical bill... I bet she will mend ok... she's a tough biatch.. We females are strong... Hope she is female.. otherwise I would hate to admit, she (he) is a smart cookie... God, that would make me cringe... :-)

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  22. I agree with Tony, although I wish you could get her to the vet. Scout want let any cats get too cosy here.

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  23. At least s/he feels safe enough to groom on your patio. I'd ask your vet about the wounds, but there may be little you can do if the cat is feral. If a cat is hungry or food-oriented, it may gulp down a pill that's hidden in a Greenie Pill Pocket treat.

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  24. Do you want to borrow a carrier? I have a small dog carrier that I use for my cats. You may be able to trap her in it and then get her to the vet.

    Do you think she might be feral?

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  25. I know dogs, I don't know cats all that well. I'm still hoping she's a neighborhood cat. But it's 11 o'clock and she's lying close to my porch. She seems to like the light, so I'll leave it on. And Albert gave a few giant barks at the screen door, so maybe he scared away some interloper. The carrier won't work; she doesn't even trust the little bed I put out for her.

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  26. She's a smart cat!!! She knows a good home when she sees it!!! I'll bet she'll warm up to you sooner rather than later!!!

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  27. Awe. He looks like Peoples. I hope he has a home somewhere. Those cat fights can come with deadly consequences.

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  28. Good luck with that. She's a good-looker.

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  29. It's gonna happen! At some point, this was somebody's baby! Otherwise, she wouldn't let you get this close. She's a cutie and I hope you two develop a closer relationship.
    You are such a nice person...

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  30. We had feral cats at our previous home. We talked to the vet, who offered us traps with simple wires instead of plastic. Maybe that sort of trap could work (less intimidating to the kitty).

    And gloves. I have some leather ones you can borrow, or oven mitts.

    Some folks here are saying if she's feral it's a lost cause? Anybody know the stats/research on that? Is it true?

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  31. The kitty I mentioned above was essentially feral...I don't think it took a year for him to settle down... But it was a long time in my kid mind!!! He ended up being a great cat... One of my lifetime favorites!!!

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  32. Helping feral cats aren't necessarily a lost cause. It's just that it's harder to get them treated medically. Traps work for some; others are too suspicious. There is an organization here that will trap and treat/spade/neuter feral cats. Some of them are "adopted" by farmers and placed in barns for pest control.
    And some feral/wild cats will learn to trust over time. Food is an excellent trust-builder.

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  33. Oven mitts, traps, etc., while I'm sure it works for some, it wouldn't work for her.

    I'm going the food route. She has a voracious appetite. I just hope she still has a taste for mice.

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  34. I love her and I'm impressed you tried to chase the rats and possums by yourself.

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  35. Great! You have a new friend!
    What did Albert said?

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