Thursday, May 19, 2011

He'll Be Back -- for his toothbrush

On the other hand, maybe he'll be forgiven. It wouldn't be the first time; it wouldn't be the hundredth.

Cheating in a marriage, on a family, isn't a felony, it's just a broken promise with one hell of a parking ticket. \

(And the upside is, those who lecture on the sanctity of marriage -- one particular idea of marriage -- may choose to lay low for awhile, especially if they have numerous sanctities under their belt.)

I was working for a company that exposed some of Schwarzenegger's indiscretions, etc, emphasis on the etc's, prior to his election. And we had to field some heat, lots of heat, from his supporters. Private life has no bearing... gossip mongers...mainstream media...blah, blah, blah. Then Maria came out to soothe the troubled waters and, well, everything -- it just went away. It stopped being a story, partly because it made people mad, partly because it didn't sell papers.

And partly, or mostly, it went away because people liked Arnold. He had a nice smile. The difference between a rascal and a liar is charm.

How much should someone's private life influence our opinion on public matters? How much of their business is and should be our business?

There's 10-year old boy who has been charged with murder. He shot his father. The father was a member of the National Socialist Movement, a neo-nazi group.

You can't separate private from public life. It's all just life.

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  1. About that 10-year-old boy: in America his father had a right to be a member of a creepy group. But if I were the judge in that case I'd be very interested to find out what motivated that boy.

    There's at least one other 10-year-old child I'm thinking of who probably has some motivation to be damn angry at his/her father.

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  2. I'd find a few household uses for that toothbrush before giving it back.

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  3. I agree......it's all just life and you can't separate the private from the public....especially if you're a public figure like Arnold. Sucks being him but he should have kept it in his pants.

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  4. I waited tables for a couple of years back in the late 80s and early 90s. Arnold came into my restaurant once with a bunch of other loud bodybuilder types. He grabbed at waitresses and make all kinds of lewd comments and later only tipped a few bucks in single, wadded bills on the table. My friends and I said, "What do you bet that guy goes into politics?"

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  5. Wasn't Arnold in trouble a few years ago for talking about a Latina politician -- he said she couldn't help being a hothead because "it's in their blood."

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  6. I've always believed that people with fabulous social skills can, and very often do, get away with things the rest of us might only dream about, mostly because they know they'll be forgiven. It makes everything so much easier and besides, they're so much fun to be around!

    I don't have any sympathy for Maria Shriver, she's smart and she knows how politics work. In her own words, a person's sex life has nothing to do with their political life (referring to her Uncle Teddy). The real question here is why do incredibly privileged and intelligent women buy into that?

    I weep for the 10 year old boy who shot his father and for the chamber maid at Sofitel who was assaulted. But, then again, she's been cleaning up after people for years - and I'll bet Strauss-Kahn was counting on it.

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  7. "she's been cleaning up after people for years - and I'll bet Strauss-Kahn was counting on it."

    That line stopped me in my tracks; brilliant observation Paula

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  8. ....and he put her (and child) up in Bakersfield, which makes Laurie's story all the more convincing. cheeeeaaaap and cruel

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  9. It all speaks to character. Private or public, there is no separation in the heart. Corruption & power seem to be bed mates. If the newspaper accounts are accurate, then he was essentially living as a bigamist, with both his wife & his paramour living under the same roof. Yech. I wonder what this will do to his box office ratings when his next movie comes out. Not that I really care.

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  10. P, the paradox or problem with freedom of belief is that kids have no say in what's stuffed into their impressionable minds.

    Shell, yeah.

    Linda, now that one trasgression has come forward, see the line start forming.

    Laurie, that fits in with everything I've heard. including Bakersfield.

    Paula, yes, read some of the earlier quotes from S-K's wife -- she thought it wonderful he was so seductive.

    PA, the Bakersfield got to you, too. But like Carolynn, I see that one big happy household as the work of a sociopath.

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  11. Couldn't quite grasp why folks voted for S. when he ran. Some of my buddies wanted someone who wasn't a "politician" in office. They voted him in and here we are. Hopefully some sort of lesson learned. Unfortunately lesson learned on the backs of at least 5 children/young people.

    How do you undo years of teaching that hate and violence are social ideals? Deep counseling and maybe some look into work done in South Africa post-apartheid.

    Shoot as far as public/private - lines are so blurred - we've all crossed some sort of line by writing these posts.

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  12. I feel so sorry for the boy who shot his father and the boy who probably just found out Arnold's his dad. Sad.

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  13. I like it better when news is just news. I often forget when that is.

    Have found several uses for left behind toothbrushes. Most of these uses include cleaning stinky parts of the bathroom.

    WV: tatall.
    No kidding.

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  14. One of Arnold's next projects was to be a cartoon superhero, "The Governator." The story was to draw from his personal life with his wife and kids helping to fight the cartoon villains. Sadly, we will now all be deprived of such riveting entertainment. Maybe we'll see him in a reality show instead.

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  15. You suppose S-K really looks like the portrait of Dorian Gray in real life?

    For years, A.S. was saved by his boyish good looks. But now he bears an unsettling resemblance to this: http://www.listal.com/viewimage/896990

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  16. Hollywood Reporter says "The Governator" is still going ahead.

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  17. No! Really? I guess they could turn it into a sordid soap opera cartoon.

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  18. Don’t forget the girls/women/wife here girls.

    Just a contribution.

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  19. Show me a woman who doesn't mind her husband cheating on her and I'll bet there's an empty bottle of Prozac under the mattress, and some damn big credit cards bills. The "sanctity of marriage" between a man and a woman has that same sex marriage beat by a long shot, right? Geesshh.

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  20. I'm late to the party again, but I want to add that I wish Arnold's and S-K's stories were news for one day or less. They deserve to be news at all only to reveal what kind of judgment and impulse control those guys have, as public figures with some real power. That part gives one pause, but that's not what the "news" focuses on.

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  21. The story of the 10 year old boy is much more poignant than about Arnold...Unfortunately, I've become numb to the indiscretions of politicians...and...anthropologically, men in power having multiple sexual liasons is not uncommon...it's been rife throughout history...so I'm not at all surprised...and in many ways, am one of those who separates the sleazy behavior with women from their effectiveness as a politician. And yet, I applaud those who maintain their integrity...

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  22. Japan loved this guy...but I think we're all shaking our heads over this news. But then it's actually almost like a comic relief compared to our domestic news these days.

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  23. They've told a few good jokes out this way too, Kaori. (And you're right, of course.)

    Chieftess, I feel we're all so far from our anthropological roots that that's not much of an excuse or explanation. On the other hand, I did think the Clinton thing was purely personal, so maybe, anthropolically speaking, I'm a hypocrit.

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  24. The difference between a rascal and a liar is charm

    Never were truer words spoken. And we all just love a rascal, don't we? I always wonder how successful they will be skirting that line throughout life, though.

    The 10-year-old boy has probably lost the lottery, both in terms of nature and nurture. Sad, but I don't hold out much hope for his future.

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